Some facts and tips for parents around ‘sexting’

By Victoria Della Cioppa 

“Sexting” – sending sexually explicit messages or images through electronic devices – has become a prevalent behaviour among teens. A “sext” can range from a suggestive message to a nude photo. It includes the original transmission of words, images, photos, videos or audio recordings, their receipt and/or their retransmission or forwarding.  

Understanding why youth engage in sexting is crucial for parents. Many teens do it for validation, to explore their sexuality or to express sexual intimacy. It can be a way  to discover one’s own sexuality, limits, empowerment, confidence or how to further a relationship. However, it can lead to serious consequences.  

The risks of sexting include emotional distress, cyberbullying and even legal consequences. Once shared, content can easily spread beyond the intended recipient. Youth are not always aware that they are engaging in illegal activity when they send a sext, even if it is within the confines of a secure relationship. In Canada, sending or receiving explicit content involving minors can result in charges of child pornography.  

Given these risks, it is important for parents to approach the topic of sexting proactively. Creating an open environment where your child feels comfortable sharing their thoughts and emotions is essential. Let them know you are available to listen without judgment.  

 It’s also important to discuss the concept of enthusiastic consent, emphasizing that it is essential in both physical relationships and digital communications. Explain that sending a sext without mutual agreement can violate trust and lead to negative outcomes. Parents can educate their teens about the qualities of healthy relationships, such as respect, trust and communication, and highlight how these qualities extend to online interactions.  

By setting clear boundaries around sexting and helping your child understand the permanence of digital content, adults can reduce the potential for regret. Fostering  open dialogue and providing guidance can help your child understand the risks of sexting and develop healthier relationships both online and offline.  

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Victoria Della Cioppa is project development officer, School Climate and Violence Prevention, with the Student Services department at the English Montreal School Board.